Attachment Style Test
Find out whether you're Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant.
Based on the Experiences in Close Relationships scale · Used in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies
How It Works
Three steps, about 10 minutes
Answer the questions
Rate how much you agree or disagree with statements about relationships. There are no right or wrong answers.
Get scored on two dimensions
Your answers are scored on attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — the two dimensions used in published research.
Get your results
Your attachment style, percentage breakdown, and what it means for your relationships.
The Four Attachment Styles
Attachment theory identifies four main patterns in how people relate to others in close relationships.
Secure
Comfortable with closeness and independence. You trust your partner, communicate openly, and don't stress about where you stand.
Balanced & TrustingAnxious
You love hard and feel deeply. You might need extra reassurance, overthink texts, or worry about whether your partner feels the same.
Deep & IntenseAvoidant
You value your space and independence. Getting too close can feel overwhelming, and you handle emotions on your own.
Independent & Self-ReliantFearful-Avoidant
You want closeness but it also scares you. You might pull people in then push them away — and it's confusing for everyone.
Complex & EvolvingWhat You'll Get
A detailed breakdown of your scores, what they mean, and practical next steps
What People Are Saying
Real feedback from people who've taken the test
Attachment Style Test — Common Questions
What exactly are attachment styles?
Attachment styles describe how you tend to behave in close relationships — particularly romantic ones. They're shaped by your early experiences with caregivers and influence how you handle conflict, express needs, and respond to closeness. The four main styles are Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant.
Can my attachment style change?
Yes, absolutely. Your attachment style isn't set in stone. Through self-awareness, healthy relationships, and sometimes therapy, many people shift toward a more secure style over time. Understanding your current style is the first step.
How does this affect my relationships?
Your attachment style shapes how you communicate, handle disagreements, express needs, and respond to closeness. For example, someone with an anxious style might overthink a delayed text, while someone avoidant might need more space after a deep conversation. Neither is wrong — understanding helps.
How long does the test take?
The questions are all quick agree/disagree style — most people finish in about 10–15 minutes. There's no timer, so take as long as you need.
Do I need to be in a relationship to take this?
No. You can answer based on how you've felt in past relationships, close friendships, or how you think you'd respond. Attachment patterns show up across all kinds of close relationships.
What research is this test based on?
This test is modelled on the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) questionnaire by Brennan, Clark & Shaver (1998). The ECR is the most widely used self-report measure of adult attachment in psychology, cited in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies. It measures two dimensions: attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance.
The Science Behind This Test
This test is based on decades of published attachment research — not pop psychology.
Attachment theory
Attachment theory was developed by British psychiatrist John Bowlby in the 1960s and expanded by developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth, whose research identified distinct patterns in how people form emotional bonds. In 1991, Bartholomew & Horowitz mapped these patterns onto four adult attachment styles: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant.
The ECR scale
This test is modelled on the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) questionnaire, published by Brennan, Clark & Shaver in 1998. The ECR measures two core dimensions — attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — and has been used in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies worldwide. It is the most widely cited self-report measure of adult attachment in psychology.
How scoring works
Your answers are scored across two dimensions: anxiety (fear of rejection and abandonment) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence). Your position on these two scales determines which of the four attachment styles best describes your relationship patterns.
Key references
- Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books.
- Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of Attachment. Erlbaum.
- Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Attachment styles among young adults. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 61(2), 226–244.
- Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment. In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment Theory and Close Relationships (pp. 46–76). Guilford Press.
Ready to find out your attachment style?
Takes about 10 minutes. Find out which of the four attachment styles fits you best.